KindnessCan

EAST COAST RADIO  |  Podcast , ±15 min episodes every 5 days  | 
Kindness is such a simple word. We've all experienced the joy of kindness in our lives. We all aspire to be kinder. We believe that kindness has the power to change the world. Yet, knowing how to be kinder in an increasingly tough world is sometimes hard for all of us. In this podcast series, radio personality Jane Linley-Thomas and psychologist Paul Bushell explore simple ways to be kinder in different situations in our lives.

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12
OCT

Kindness from the community in the face of tragedy

In July this year, the Durban home of actors / comedians Lisa Bobbert and Aaron McIlroy was gutted by a devastating fire. In today's KindnessCan podcast, Jane Linley-Thomas and psychologist Paul Bushell talk to Lisa about the traumatic experience of losing her family-home of over 20 years, along with almost every single item they possessed, but -in the process - of gaining the kindness, love and support of the community.
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05
OCT

Kindness when co-parenting

Parenting is a wonderfully tough job. Doing it with another person can be such a relief and joy. It can also be a point of conflict. In this episode of KindnessCan, Jane and Paul talk about co-parenting with kindness.
28
SEP

Kindness after a Relationship Breakup

Going through a break-up is never easy. There are often a lot of hard thoughts and feelings. It's important that we slow this moment down and give ourselves the chance to process and react to these thoughts and feelings in the best and kindest way possible. Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul Buschell talk about kindness in the wake of a breakup in this episode.
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21
SEP

Kindness with our Work colleagues

If most of us are spending as much as 80% of our lives at work, the people we work with are a big part of lives. These relationships can have a big impact on the way we think, feel and act. These experiences are the stories, feelings and habits we take home with us. We have been overwhelmed by emails from people feeling so unhappy because of unkind relationships and vibes at work. Breaking the cycle of unkind sometimes starts with us.
Smile more. There are only one or two places in the world where smiling isn’t seen as a gesture of warmth, caring and kindness. You have the potential to change the course of a conversation and relationship by carefully attaching a smile. It can be a scary thing to do at first, because putting ourselves out there feels vulnerable - what if people don’t smile back? Or they think we’re creepy? Take the chance for yourself. You might not always get a smile back right away (or ever), but the odds are definitely in your favor. It will feel good for you.
Ask more questions. It’s hard to hate someone up close. When you don’t understand something, ask questions. We are ore the same than we are different.
Affirmation: I am part of a special community.
14
SEP

Kindness with our Partners

Over time, we can all start to take our special relationship for granted. All the little and big things that we do for each other become lost in a feeling of routine and amongst all the business of life. We start to give the best of ourselves to our children, our friends, our colleges, our social media. It becomes easy to be unkind and uncaring. If our feelings and actions are a product of our thoughts, we need to go back to the drawing board and start connecting with thoughts about our partners and lives, which will allow us to feel kinder and be kinder. A really useful way of doing this is by connecting with the little and small things we are grateful for.
Start by making a list of things that you really value in your partner.
Then, make a list of things that your partner does for you that really matters and means something. You might want to share these lists as a way of affirming and encouraging each other. Affirmation: I am grateful for you.
07
SEP

Kindness with our Kids

It’s not always possible to be kind to our children all of the time. Life is demanding and busy, and there are moments when they seem to bring out the worst in us. We are impatient and short, unavailable and limited by our own shortfalls as a person in a stressful world. In your quest to be kind to yourself and your children, start by setting all of you free from the idea of perfection. By holding ourselves ransom to an unrealistic idea of the perfect parent and person, we are overwhelming ourselves. And, we are building the illusion that ‘perfect’ is possible for our children as well. It’s okay to make mistakes and get it wrong. Use these moments to learn and grow together in supportive and kind ways. We do this by role-modeling certain key behaviors – admitting when we’ve messed up, saying sorry and asking for forgiveness, brainstorming ways we could all do it better next time, taking the consequences, asking for help when we don’t know what to do.
Affirmation: I can turn regret into wisdom.
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31
AUG

Kindness to Self

Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul Buschell talk about being kinder to ourselves in this episode. Self-Talk is the conversations that we have with ourselves. They become the basis of our thoughts. The more we have these thoughts the more we believe them as TRUE. These thoughts are very powerful, because they become the way that we feel and then the way we act in different situations. From early on in our lives, we start having these conversations. However, it’s important to learn (from as young as possible) that many of these conversations and thoughts are NOT true. We have the power to confront and change these thoughts. This is a very powerful way of setting ourselves free from the negative feelings and behaviors in our lives. We do this through a process of - Catch, Confront, Change.
Catch negative thoughts about yourself. Confront them by asking – are you true and useful? And then where appropriate, change them for something more accurate and useful. At first, you might miss the thoughts before they have already become a hard feeling. When you have the hard feeling, start by asking yourself – what thought might have caused this unhappy feeling. Then confront that thought. Affirmations are a great way of gently correcting and realigning the conversations and thoughts we are having. Take control of your thoughts and feelings, by periodically dropping in kind and affirming thoughts about yourself.
Affirmation: I am enough. I am a deserving recipient of love and kindness in the world.
30
AUG

KindnessCan - Coming Soon

Kindness is such a simple word. We all have experienced the joy of kindness in our lives. We all aspire to be kinder. We believe that kindness has the power to change the world. Yet, knowing how to be kinder in an increasingly tough world is sometimes hard for all of us. In this podcast series - which launches on 31 August 2019, Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul Buschell explore fun and easy ways to be kinder in different situations in our lives.
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