What Attacks You Shouldn't Attach – Protecting Your Marriage from Isolation and Mental Overwhelm
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In this episode of Couples of Destiny on Radio Cape Pulpit, host Terry Honey welcomes Apostle Dominic and Jamie Mentor for a vulnerable and powerful conversation titled "What attacks you shouldn't attach." Drawing from John 14:30 – where Jesus says the prince of this world has nothing in Me – they explore how couples can face storms, conflict, ministry pressure, and financial strain without allowing those attacks to attach to their hearts or covenant.
Dominic shares a deeply personal testimony: early in their marriage, he became so consumed with planting the church and studying Scripture (sometimes from 10 PM to 5 AM) that he neglected his wife for three years. Jamie went to bed alone, woke up alone, and eventually broke down in tears, feeling unloved and isolated. Dominic had to repent immediately and reprioritise, learning that there are three relationships: personal (with God), private (with spouse/family), and public (ministry/community) – and he had mixed up the order.
Jamie speaks about learning to stop isolating herself when overwhelmed. She shares how her husband had to confront her when her mood caused their children to stop running to the door when she came home. She also opens up about two traumatic premature births (both children born at six months via emergency C-section) and the depression, isolation, and questioning ("Why me? I did everything right") that followed. The couple leaned on each other, spoke openly about their fears, and held on to God.
They emphasise that mental health is real – anxiety, depression, and overwhelm are not a lack of faith. Christians must stop spiritualising everything and be willing to seek help, communicate, and take immediate action rather than waiting. The episode closes with a prayer for restoration, reconciliation, and healing for marriages on the brink of divorce.
Dominic shares a deeply personal testimony: early in their marriage, he became so consumed with planting the church and studying Scripture (sometimes from 10 PM to 5 AM) that he neglected his wife for three years. Jamie went to bed alone, woke up alone, and eventually broke down in tears, feeling unloved and isolated. Dominic had to repent immediately and reprioritise, learning that there are three relationships: personal (with God), private (with spouse/family), and public (ministry/community) – and he had mixed up the order.
Jamie speaks about learning to stop isolating herself when overwhelmed. She shares how her husband had to confront her when her mood caused their children to stop running to the door when she came home. She also opens up about two traumatic premature births (both children born at six months via emergency C-section) and the depression, isolation, and questioning ("Why me? I did everything right") that followed. The couple leaned on each other, spoke openly about their fears, and held on to God.
They emphasise that mental health is real – anxiety, depression, and overwhelm are not a lack of faith. Christians must stop spiritualising everything and be willing to seek help, communicate, and take immediate action rather than waiting. The episode closes with a prayer for restoration, reconciliation, and healing for marriages on the brink of divorce.
