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Umfana ona-3 udlala ngokugqoka izingubo nosisi bakhe
Ngingamvumela yini umfana wami ona 3 weminyaka ukuba adlale ngokugqoka izingubo nodadewabo? Akajabuliswa nje kuphela ukugqoka amalokwe abo odadewabo, kodwa uze agqoke nobucwebe bamantombazane. Kimi loluphawu alwehli kahle.Ngingalumisa kanjani?
Ukubuka ngokwebhayibheli-Ubumqoka benkonzo yekamero emshadweni
Ngakube inkonzo iseqhulwini kangako emshadweni onempilo? Nakhu okwenza ngibuze. Siyaphikisana nowakwami. Ungitshela ukuthi inkonzo ingcwele yisacramente futhi luyimfihlakalo engcwele, nokuthi imelwe ukuba yindikimba yobudlelwano bethu. Uze asebenzise kwabaseFesu 5: 30-32 ukweyamisa lenkulumo yakhe.Angivumi mina, emva kwakho konke ,kuningi okungomshado ngaphezu kwenkonzo. Ngaphandle kwebhayibheli uqobo [1 Khorinte 7 :3-5] kubukeka lencwadi…
Ubungani bobulili obuhlukene emshadweni
Kunecala yini koshadile ukuba nomngani wobulili obuhlukile ? Ngesikhathi umkhwenyana wami esohambweni lwesonto ,ngicele uzakwethu wesilisa emsebenzini ukuba azongisiza ngengane yami enonyaka nengxenye .Sagcina sesibuka i-TV nokusebenza eminye imisebenzi yasemsebenzini emva kokuthi lengane yami ibisilele.Ekubuyeni komkhwenyana wami ,uphatheke kabi ,wathi unovalo lokuthi ngingase ngishendeze .Ngokwakhe ubona kungenakwenzeka ukuba abantu abadala…
Wenza isikhathi nabangani bakhe ubaba nomama wenza esabakhe
Nicabanga kuwumqondo omuhle kobaba nomama ukuba nezinto abavama ukuzenza nabangani babo bobulili bunye ngaphandle komunye? Umkhwenyana wami uzizwela isidingo esinqala ukuba ndawonye njalo ngenyanga ,kodwa mina ngixolela ukusebenzisa isikhathi sami esiningi naye .Nami ngiyazikhipha izikhashanyana nabangani bami besibhuda ,kimi ngiye ngibone kwenele .Kuthini ukucabanga kwenu?
Umkhwenyana ukhathazekile ngengcindezi ngesikhathi umakoti ezithwele
Kumele ngiphatheke kabi uma ngibona umkhwenyana wami aze aphendule ikhanda –amehlo ethe njo komunye wesifazane? Ube ngothembekile kimi nohlale engithembisa njalonjalo.Ngiyamethemba futhi ungowokugcina kwabesilisa engingambiza ngonoziketi .Nokho kuyangikhathaza ukumbona enze njalo ,ikakhulukazi uma sisebantwini.Ngakube ngenziwa yisikhwele ngaye?
Ingane esikhulile yenze izinqumo ezingezinhle
Yikuphi esingakwenza ukukhuthaza undodana wethu omdala ukuba akhule manje? Wenze izinqumo ezibi ngokwempilo ,umsebenzi ,indawo yokuphila ,nangabangani .Emva kokumkhulisa ngobuKHRESTU siphoxekile kakhulu .Khona manjalo asikwazi ukuzixolela ngomuzwa wecala wokuthi sehluleka kuphi .Kukhona esingakwenza ukubuyela emumva ,ngaphandle kokugxoba imingcele efanele?
Osekuse emehlweni kuye ngophuzo ufuna ubudlelwane bubuye nabantabakhe
Njengomzalwane omusha osohambeni lokukhahlela lomkhuba omdala wokucwila ezinkambeni ,ngingabubuyisa kanjani ubudlelwano bami nezingane zami ? Eminyakeni edlule ukucwila ophuzweni kwami kwaphetha ngokuchitha umshado nomndeni wami .Ngiyazisola ngobishi engangena kulo ,kodwa nje nje ngihlangane neNkosi futhi sekusile kimi.Manje sengifisa ukuxhumana nezingane zami ,kodwa azifune kuzwa lutho ngami .Ngenze njani?
Umzali owahlukanisa unovalo ngengane yakhe esikhulile engawuzwa kahle umshado
Undodana wami osekhulile ngingamenza kanjani abone ukuthi umshado unenani elikhulu ekubeni owami noyise wabhidlika? Mina noyise sahlukanisa zisencane izingane zami ,ngazitshela engqondweni ukuthi yinto ezimukele nomfula nje .Manje ngithola ukuthi undodana wami ugxeka mina noyise ngesizathu sokuthi awenyanye umshado .Nanxa isikhona intokazi aseyibonile kodwa akahlose kuyishada ,kwazise ngokwamazwi akhe :’…
Umfana ozothile nozwelayo
Kuhle yini ukuba umfana abe ngozolile nozwelayo ? Amadodana ethu amancane azihlukele .Omdala uzihlukele nje naye-unomsindo uhlale esemoyeni.Kodwa lo umfowabo ona 4 ,yena uyazithulela ,ngiye ngingazi noma ekhona.Ngesikhathi lo omdala eba nesikhathi noyise benza izinto ezisindayo zamadoda.Lo omncane uxolela ukuba sekhoneni ,azidwebele izimbali .Ngakube wutho lolu okumele lungikhathaze?
Umkhwenyana ojeqeza abanye besifazane
Kukhona engingakwenza ukusiza unkosikazi wami ozithwele ekubhekaneni nomoya oguquguqukayo kuye? Usengasekugcineni kwezinyanga zakhe ,kodwa usebukeka enengcindezi .Osekuba yisiphazamiso ebudlelwaneni bethu .Kukaningi ngizwa ngengcindezi eba kumama emva nje kokuteta ,manje ngakube kujwayelekile yini ukuba umama avese acindezeleke engakateti?
Ukungethembeki-Ukwehlukanisa phakathi kokuthethelela nokubuyisana
Kwezokungathembeki emshadweni ukhona yini umehluko phakathi kokuthethelela nokubuyisana ? Emva komunyaka odlule ,ngithole ukuthi umkhwenyana wami waba nothando nomngani wami engimkhonze kakhulu .Konke lokhu sekukonke kuthathe iminyaka ewu 10 .Emva kokumqonda ngokwesibili ,wakhala wathi ubuhlungu ngakwenza.Ungiqinisekisile- futhi ngiyakholwa usho ngempela-ukuthi ubudlelwane babo sebabunqamula.Ngikholwa ukuthi enhlizyweni yami ngimthethelele umkhwenyana wami ,kodwa…
Ukholo Nokuzibulala kwabasha Nabasafika Ebudaleni
Ngakube abangakholwa, yibo abasemathubeni okuzibulala kunamakholwa? Ngibuza ngoba indodana yethu ishiye ukholo lwayo emva nje kokungena emfundweni ephakeme.Emva kwalokho usehlala nje engaqondakali.Ngakube usencupheni yokuzibulala? Bukuphi ubudlelwane phakathi kokholo lomuntu omusha nomqondo wezwe futhi kanjalo nokubukeka kwakhe kwempilo?
Ukubuyisa amandla emumva kothando olusithe olukuphoxile
Ngiqhubekela kanjani phambili emumva kothando lwangasese oluphelele ekuphoxekeni ? Bengizitshela ukuthi isidima sami njenga ‘lomunye wesifazane’ sizoguquka ngokuphazima kweso emumva kokuthi isithandwa sami sishiye unkosikazi waso nomndeni waso ,kodwa lokho akwenzekanga .Kodwa manje engikuzwayo ,ukuphatheka kabi ,ngihlephukile ,nginomzwangedwa.
Ukubhekana nowakwakho onganaki
Yikuphi engingakwenza ngobuhlaphahlapha bowakwami nengqondo yakhe engahlelekile? Uyidlabha lempela,okwenza impilo yami ingayi ndawo. Akusikho nje kuphela ukuthi udusa izinto endlini ( izincwadi ze- bill ,amaphepha asemqoka , njll) ,kodwa uhlale ehamba njengoba kuyingxenye yomsebenzi wakhe,futhi sihlale njalo sithenga kabusha izinto asezilahlile – ama cellphone,ama laptop –akulahla ekuhambeni.Konke lokhu kuyangisanganisa phela…
Ukulungisa umoya wokulwa enganeni yakho
Singamvimbela kanjani undodana wethu oneminyaka eyisikhombisa ekubeni ngubhongoza? Sengiqaphelile ukwazi ukudlubulunda futhi abe yingqqwele kwezinye izingane.Uhlale efuna ukuba ngungqaphambili –wena ongafunga impela ukuthi kuthiwe akaziveze.Uma ethethiswa ubuyisela ngesidlozane futhi kunezingane asezilimazile phambilini.Lokhu akuhambisani neminyaka yakhe futhi usedume kakhulu esikoleni,nokho ngizibuza kuzoze kube yinini.
Umshado phakathi kophika ubukhona bukaNkulunkulu nongMkhrestu
Ngakube ophika ubukhona bukaNkulunkulu nekholwa, bangaba yimbumba yomshado ? mina nesancinza sami sithandana okwempela.Umndeni wakhe uyangithanda futhi bonke abantu bathi sifanelene njengamajuba.Inqaba isekutheni nje ungumzalwane wokuqina,mina angikholwa wuNkulunkulu sanhlobo.Nicabanga ukwehluka kwethu ngenkolo kungayinkinga enkulu? Mina ngokwami anginandaba nokuthi abanye abantu bakholelwa kukuphi inqobo uma nje inhliziyo yabo iright.Athini amathuba okuba…
Umzali uthole ukuthi ingane yakhe iyisisulu sokuhlotshongwa
Ngenzenjani njengoba ngisanda kuthola ukuthi emndenini kunelunga ebelilutha ingane yami ngocansi? Ngiphendukela kukuphi ukusizakala? Njengoba ungazicabangela ,ukwembuleka kwalensambatheka kuyangisanganisa.
Ukungabikho kukababa kuphazamisa kanjani isidima sikamama
Ngakube ugcizelelo lwenu lobumqoka bukababa emndenini bukhomba ukuthi umama yena uneqhaza elincane kumbe elingekho sanhlobo ekukhuliseni izingane? Baningi omama abazikhuliselayo izingane zabo ,okwenza ngimangazwe ukuthi ngakube izinga layo lemindeni iphansi? Izinga enibeka ubaba phezulu ngalo ngakuba nilenza elikamama libe yinto engekho ? umama akasemqoka yini naye njengobaba? Pho singenza kanjani…
Amandla okukwazi ukuhlukanisa ukwakheka ngokobulili emshadweni
Ngakube kunamandla omthelela muni ukwehlukana kokwenza kowesilisa nowesifazane emshadweni uma kubukwa ,imizwa yenhliziyo,ingqondo ,umzimba,inkonzo yasekamelweni nempilo nje yansukuzonke? Yikuphi indoda nenkosikazi edinga ukukwazi ngalesihloko futhi lokhukwazi kuzobasiza kanjani ukuqinisa umshado wabo?
Umzali oxoveke ingqondo wumntwana onodlame
Ngimenze njani umntanami oneminyaka ewu 3 nje kodwa ohlale ewudlame kwezinye izingane? Ekhaya uyingelosi uma kungekho zingane.Kodwa nje ekufikeni enkonzweni la kunezingane kumbe sivakashe ezihlotsheni ezinontangabakhe uvese angakhalimeki.Dukuduku umbona useyashaya,uyakhahlela uyaluma njeyaya. Kodwa imvamisa ubanga umsindo,angadlali kahle ,angahambisani nabanye abaphazamise.Ngenzenjani?