From sexual response to stress response, with Dr Emily Nagoski - S3E1

Asking for a friend is finally back, and while I know you’ve been waiting so patiently, it has been worth it I promise! I’ve been speaking to the most incredible, knowledgeable, and interesting people to bring you the best season yet.

And what a way to start - bringing you a conversation I had with one of the most impactful people in the field of sexuality. If you’ve spent any time with me, you’ll have heard me say that she’s the person to follow in the field of sexuality, that her books are an absolute must-read and, in my opinion, should be syllabus in all schools, and now having met her, I can also say she’s the coolest and just nicest person.

She is a prolific sex educator and best-selling author of two books, Come as you are and Burnout (which she co-authored with her identical twin sister). She travels all over the world, training therapists, medical professionals, college students, and the general public about the science of women’s sexual wellbeing.

In this episode, Emily and I discuss the most important aspects of sex, what you all need to know about yourself sexually, and how stress impacts our mind, bodies and sexual experience. We also get deep, discussing the impact of heteronormative, patriarchal narratives and capitalism on our sexuality. And Emily courageously opens up to me and shares about some experiences she’s had in her life that have helped her understand her body under stress.

Emily’s work is incredible. You should read it, know her and follow her!
She mentions Tricia Hersey, The Nap Bishop, and suggests you check out her amazing work @thenapministry
29 Jul 2021 English South Africa Sexuality · Relationships

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