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Uhlelo oluyimizuzu eyisihlanu lapho sikulethela khona izeluleko ezisebenzisekayo ngabakwa - Focus on the Family
Ukusebenzisa amaphilisi okuhlela inzalo emshadweni
Uthini umbono wenu ngokusebenzisa amaphilisi okuhlela ? Sisanda kushada sizama ukucabangisisa ngendlela eseqophelweni eliphezulu ukuthi siwabuke kanjani,kodwa sithola umyalezo ohlukene kubahlobo bethu,amalunga omndeni ,nodokotela.Omunye umzalwane esimaziyo ukholwa ukuthi naluhlobo luni lokuhlela umndeni lumelene necebo likaNkulunkulu. Asazi sicabange kuphi.
Umama akabazwile kahle abangani womkhwenyana wakhe
Yikuphi engingakwenza ngokungabi kwami nkamu nkamu ngabangane bomkhwenyana wami? Sithokozile futhi sisebudlelwaneni obuhle kakhulu,ngaphandle kwento eyodwa : angizwani nabangane bakhe.Ikhona indlela yokusombulula lenkinga? Isiholela ekuphikisaneni nongqubuzano
Ukuzibuza kaze uwakwakho wakuyeka ngempela ukukuhamba ngemumva
Ngingakholwa kanjani wukukuthi umnyeni wami usephendukile ebuhlungwini angidalele khona? Onyakeni owodwa odlule ,ngithole ukuthi sekube ngeside isikhathi esothandweni nomunye wesifazane ngenhliziyo ejulile.Unokhondolo futhi lokuvese aqhume ngokudinwa okugcina kuholela ekuhlukunyezekweni ngamagama.Kaninganyana engijikijela ngezinto . Nakuba esaphuma kulobubudlelwane bokungibhaqa ,kwathi ukwehlisa umoya wakhe ,waze wathi ufisa siyothola nabaluleki ukuze sikhande umshado wethu,konke…
Isehlukaniso nofa lwaso ezinganeni
Sisemalungiselelweni okuhlukanisa kodwa kubukeka kuza mawala emndenini wonke.Izingane zethu sezenza izinto ngendlela ehlukile.Ezinye zezindlela zazo ngalesimo zenza ngikhathazeke ngazo.Yikuphi okuthathwa njengokulindelekile nokuphilekayo nakho esimweni esinjengalesi ? Yikuphi okungenziwa ukubhekana naloludaba?”
Obaba bafundisa kanjani amadodakazi abo isizotha?
Obaba bangasiza kanjani amadodakazi abo afunde isizotha ? Ngifuna indodakazi yami ikubambe lokhu phambi kokuba ibe yi- teenager.Kodwa ngizwa kuseceleni kimi ukukhuluma ngalesosihloko .Ngibona ukuthi kimi njengoyise ngingaba lusizo kuyo kulesisihloko kumbe ngibe wukuyidumaza, ingazizwa kahle.Yiliphi iqhaza eliqondile kubaba la?
Ingane yesaba usathane
Ngingehlisa kanjani ukwesaba enganeni yami ngoSathane? Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa umtanami ona 5 uyaqhaqhazela ngalesihloko.Uhlale njalo ebuza imibuzo ngoSathane ,bese ebukeka ehlasimula ngalokhu angakwenza kuye.Uyaya kuSontoskole ,siyathandaza sifunde ibhayibheli sonke ndawonye.Okwamanje ,kubukeka konke lokho kungasizi .Ngizamile okusemandleni ukumqinisa,kodwa kumele ngivume ukuthi kwamina akukuningi engikwaziyo ngoSathane .Ningangitshela ngqo ukuthi zithini izibhalo ngaye
Ukuhuheka kumngani wowakwakho
Ngingamtshela yini umnyeni wami ukuthi ngihuheka ngomngani wakhe oseduze naye ? Ngike ngezwa kuthiwa loluhlobo lolwazi lungaxoxwa abaganene ngenhloso yokuvulekelana ,nokho ngimanqika ukuthi kuwubuhlakani lokho .kulamadoda omabili akekho owaziyo ngofudulo lwami lwangaphakathi futhi angifuni ukulimaza ubungani babo.Ngenzenjani?
Umkhwenyana ongathembekile ufuna ukuba sothandweni nomunye wesifazane
Ngibhekane kanjani nokungethembeki komkhwenyana wami osekwenzeke ngokuphindaphindwa aze angiqonde angicele ngqo ukuthi ufuna ukuba nothando lwaseceleni nomunye wesifazane ? Yonke leminyaka umshado usube sesivunguvungwini .Ekugcineni nje useze wavuma ukuthi usothandweni nomunye ngasitha.Ngimthethelele ukuphinga kwakhe,kodwa manje uthi ufuna ukukhulisa ubudlelwano anabo bangaphandle ebe eqhubeka elayikhaya.Ngizimisele ukutakula umshado wethu ,nokho angifuni ukumchukuluza…
Umfana ona-3 udlala ngokugqoka izingubo nosisi bakhe
Ngingamvumela yini umfana wami ona 3 weminyaka ukuba adlale ngokugqoka izingubo nodadewabo? Akajabuliswa nje kuphela ukugqoka amalokwe abo odadewabo, kodwa uze agqoke nobucwebe bamantombazane. Kimi loluphawu alwehli kahle.Ngingalumisa kanjani?
Unkosikazi wami uyahlukumeza ngokwenyama
Ngiphendule kanjani kunkosikazi ode eba nomoya wadlame? Kanye nakabili ngonyaka mina nonkosikazi wami siye sibe nokuphikisana okuze kuphume esandleni .Ezikhathini ezithile ,usho izinto ezicofayo ngami okubandakanya ukuthi ,’ngiyakuzonda’.Ngiye ngibeke phansi umoya ,lokho okugcina kumenza agcine esenodlame imbala.Angijikijele ngezinto aze azame ukungishaya angikhahlele .okwamanje angikaze ngibhekane nokulimala okukhulu ,nokho ngikhathazekile uma…
Ukuhushula nezempilo zikamama
Kuyenzeka ngempela ube ngolwela ukuphila, ube futhi uvumelana nokuhushula esimweni lakhona impilo kamama isencupheni ? Kuthini ukubuka kwenu kulumbuzo wezobuqotho onzima ?
Uku ‘adopter’ ingane ehlukumezekile
Yikuphi esidinga ukukwazi kuqala uma sizo adopter umntwana oseke wahlukumezeka? Sicabanga uku- adopter ingane engaphansi kuka 2 weminyaka eyasuswa kubo isenezinyanga ngenxa yohlukumezeko .Ibisabekwe kwi-system ye foster care unyaka wonke odlule .Yikuphi okuyincuphe esizibeka kukho ?
Umkhwenyana akafuni ukuyosebenza
Kukhona kodwa engingakwenza ngendoda enqaba ukuthola umsebenzi ? Sineminyaka ewu 12 sishadile ,kwewu 10 yonke ubezihlalele ekhaya engenzi lutho lonke usuku ngesikhathi mina ngisemsebenzini .Akafaki lutho ekhaya nasemndenini wethu .Kuye akuthi shu .Enye yezingane zethu yatholakala nesifo okubizayo ukuselapha manje umsebezni wami wodwa angeke ukwazi ukubhekana nalezondleko.Nanxa kunjalo ufuna ukuqhubeka…
Ukubuka ezezimali kwabasanda kushada
Ningangisiza nomkhwenyana wami sihlele izimpokophelo zempilo ngokwezimali ezihambisana nathi sindawonye? Akukudala sishadile,umkhwenyana wami useqalile ukukhuluma ngokuthenga umuzi nokusungula isikhwama somhlalaphansi.Kanti mina ngisakhathazwe nje uku- renta nokudla .Kuyaphatheka akushoyo ? Ngakube ngizikhathaza ngobala? Ikhona yini indlela yokubhalansisa lokhubuka kwethu ?
Ukukhuthaza Ingxoxo niwumndeni
Kusemqoka kanganani ukuhlale kuhlale umndeni ube nethuba lokuxoxa? Emshadweni wethu ukuxoxa sekube yingwadla eside isikhathi,kodwa mumva nje sengiqaphele ukuthi lenkinga isithungele nasezinganeni: kubukeka akasekho layikhaya onesikhathi sokuxoxa nomunye.Angazi lokhu kwenzeke kanjani ,futhi ngiyamangala ngokukushoyo ngempilo yomndeni kwezobudlelwane.Kodwa ngingenze njani ukucima lomhlolo?
Unkosikazi unongakuqondi ngezocansi ngomkhwenyana wakhe
Ngingamenza kanjani umkhwenyana wami aqonde ukuthi angiyena umuntu ofuna ukuba senkonzweni njalo njengaye? Uma ngimtshela angikho semoyeni wenkonzo ,uvese acasuke athi ,ziningi kabi izinto naye angenzela zona noma engekho semoyeni ngalesosikhathi -njengokuya emsebenzini,ukusiza emsebenzini wasekhaya ,nokuwasha izitsha.Ngizamile ukumtshela ,akuyona into efanayo leyo ,kunalokho akangikholwa futhi akangilaleli .Kukhona okungalungile kimi?
Ingane ephindaphinda amagama ahlabayo ashiwo nguwakwakho
Ngiphendule kanjani uma izingane zami zithi obenguwakwami kade enza izinkulumo ezibucayi nezinonya ngami? Ibuphi ubuhlukani ukubhekana naloludaba?
Abazali abesaba kunokwenzeka ingane yabo iyisisulu sokuxhashazwa kwezokuxhumana
Ngingazi kanjani ngokungangabazisi ukuthi ingane yami iyinhlwa yenhlekisa kwimiqhafazo kumbe amahebezi amabi kwi social media? Zikhona yini izimpawu ? Uma kuwukuthi ngempela ingane yami yenziwa umantindane kwezokuxhumana ,ngingayisiza ngani mina?
Ukusungula Izindlela ezihlabela phambili zokuxhumana nezingane
Singabafundisa kanjani abantwana bethu ubuciko bokulalela? Babukeka behluleka ukulandela ulayelo .Odabeni lwendodakazi yami ngicabanga iyaziba izikhathi eziningi.Okukandodana wami khona ,ubukeka eziqinisa ezakhe izindlebe bese abe matasa nomabonakude,izincwadi nama video game,noma yini enye ayenzayo okwenza engasuseki kuyo.Ngizithola sengide ngiphinda phinda into eyodwa.Zikhona iziluleko eningangipha zona?
Umkhwenyana ohlulwa ukuthethela unkosikazi
Ngingadlula kanjani ebucayini bomkami enza ngabo, futhi ngikhohlwe okuningi okuhlasimulisayo akusho kimi phambilini ? emva kweminyaka sisemshadweni,sengifike lakhona ngingesenakukuthwala.Angikholelwa kwisahlukaniso ,yikho sesiphila impilo eqhelelene sibe sindlwinye ,naye uzilalela kwelakhe ikamero.Manje ufuna ngimthethelele ukuze sihlabele phambili nomshado wethu ,kodwa ngokwami akukho kalula kanjalo nje .Amagama akhe ahlabayo asenkenketha emicabangweni yami ,futhi…