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Kindness is such a simple word. We've all experienced the joy of kindness in our lives. We all aspire to be kinder. We believe that kindness has the power to change the world. Yet, knowing how to be kinder in an increasingly tough world is sometimes hard for all of us. In this podcast series, radio personality Jane Linley-Thomas and psychologist Paul Bushell explore simple ways to be kinder in different situations in our lives.

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Kindness in the Car

As South Africans, we spend a lot of time in cars. So often, they become places of stress, frustration and unkindness. But, they can be great places for self-reflection and sharing with the people in our lives. This week, Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul Bushell talk about how to be kinder to ourselves and others in the car.

Kindness for those who're leaving SA - or staying here

Emigration stories are once again coming up between friends, family members and colleagues. There seems to have been a new wave of people opting to leave South Africa, for whatever reason, and so in this week's podcast, Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul Bushell talk about emigration - from both perspectives. They're not offering input on whether to stay or go, rather talking about kindness for those who're dealing with what is no doubt a very difficult decision, as well as respect and kindness for those who choose to stay.

Kindness when winning or losing

On the back of the Boks amazing Rugby World Cup win, Jane and Paul talk about kindness when winning and losing. This is an excellent listen for parents, and anyone for that matter, navigating the highs and lows on either side of victory. This episode includes practical tips on how to manage impulse control in all of our lives.

Kindness in Sport - with rugby legend Pat Lambie

This week Jane and Paul are talking kindness in sport with Springbok Rugby legend Pat Lambie. Pat shares some of his stories about rugby, life, life after rugby and most all - kindness. It’s amazing the places kindness turns up, and the impact it can have on so many parts of our lives.

Affirmation: Kindness is everywhere.

Showing gratitude to others

Although kindness is free and accessible, it’s not always easy to put into practice. In the latest episode, Jane and Paul talk about the importance of expressing gratitude to others in order to grow and develop kinder relationships with others, and with ourselves!

Affirmation: Gratitude equals happiness.

Kindness when your kids leave home

Watching a child leave home for the first time is like watching a lifetime of emotions flash before your eyes. Join Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul Bushell as they talk about the experience of having a child leave home for the first time. The kindness duo take listeners through some of the emotions to expect, and practical ways to deal with these for you and your child. Raising children (even when they’re big) is a wonderful, tough job.

Affirmation: I must trust that I have done the best I could.
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Kindness from the community in the face of tragedy

In July this year, the Durban home of actors / comedians Lisa Bobbert and Aaron McIlroy was gutted by a devastating fire. In today's KindnessCan podcast, Jane Linley-Thomas and psychologist Paul Bushell talk to Lisa about the traumatic experience of losing her family-home of over 20 years, along with almost every single item they possessed, but -in the process - of gaining the kindness, love and support of the community.
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Kindness when co-parenting

Parenting is a wonderfully tough job. Doing it with another person can be such a relief and joy. It can also be a point of conflict. In this episode of KindnessCan, Jane and Paul talk about co-parenting with kindness.

Kindness after a Relationship Breakup

Going through a break-up is never easy. There are often a lot of hard thoughts and feelings. It's important that we slow this moment down and give ourselves the chance to process and react to these thoughts and feelings in the best and kindest way possible. Jane Linley-Thomas and Paul Buschell talk about kindness in the wake of a breakup in this episode.
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Kindness with our Work colleagues

If most of us are spending as much as 80% of our lives at work, the people we work with are a big part of lives. These relationships can have a big impact on the way we think, feel and act. These experiences are the stories, feelings and habits we take home with us. We have been overwhelmed by emails from people feeling so unhappy because of unkind relationships and vibes at work. Breaking the cycle of unkind sometimes starts with us.
Smile more. There are only one or two places in the world where smiling isn’t seen as a gesture of warmth, caring and kindness. You have the potential to change the course of a conversation and relationship by carefully attaching a smile. It can be a scary thing to do at first, because putting ourselves out there feels vulnerable - what if people don’t smile back? Or they think we’re creepy? Take the chance for yourself. You might not always get a smile back right away (or ever), but the odds are definitely in your favor. It will feel good for you.
Ask more questions. It’s hard to hate someone up close. When you don’t understand something, ask questions. We are ore the same than we are different.
Affirmation: I am part of a special community.

Kindness with our Partners

Over time, we can all start to take our special relationship for granted. All the little and big things that we do for each other become lost in a feeling of routine and amongst all the business of life. We start to give the best of ourselves to our children, our friends, our colleges, our social media. It becomes easy to be unkind and uncaring. If our feelings and actions are a product of our thoughts, we need to go back to the drawing board and start connecting with thoughts about our partners and lives, which will allow us to feel kinder and be kinder. A really useful way of doing this is by connecting with the little and small things we are grateful for.
Start by making a list of things that you really value in your partner.
Then, make a list of things that your partner does for you that really matters and means something. You might want to share these lists as a way of affirming and encouraging each other. Affirmation: I am grateful for you.

Kindness with our Kids

It’s not always possible to be kind to our children all of the time. Life is demanding and busy, and there are moments when they seem to bring out the worst in us. We are impatient and short, unavailable and limited by our own shortfalls as a person in a stressful world. In your quest to be kind to yourself and your children, start by setting all of you free from the idea of perfection. By holding ourselves ransom to an unrealistic idea of the perfect parent and person, we are overwhelming ourselves. And, we are building the illusion that ‘perfect’ is possible for our children as well. It’s okay to make mistakes and get it wrong. Use these moments to learn and grow together in supportive and kind ways. We do this by role-modeling certain key behaviors – admitting when we’ve messed up, saying sorry and asking for forgiveness, brainstorming ways we could all do it better next time, taking the consequences, asking for help when we don’t know what to do.
Affirmation: I can turn regret into wisdom.
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