Sincerely Black Love

THE BECAUSEBLACK CO. PTY LTD  |  Podcast , ±37 min episodes every 3 weeks, 3 days  |  Broadcast schedule  | 
Hakeem Anderson-Lesolang's take on relationships, mindfulness, wellness, healthy partnerships, wealth creation in a family setting and parenting as a black father.

I've done my worst to myself, my relationships, and black love and burnt enough times to know it's not worth it being your base self and I have taken leave to change it around and have helped others do the same.

This podcast is about impacting you, your lover and letting your relationship thrive so you can do love instead of ruining it. Whether you're single, dating, married, separated or divorced & a parent, I want to help mend what we break & what others broke in us.

Sincerely Black Love is my ode to what carries me through life in the most beautiful way I've ever known.

I know you'll love it and love yourself from it.

Subscribe • Listen • Do The Inner Work • Put The Worth To Work • Teach It

— h.a-l | @HakeemAndrsn

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07
SEP

022 - Post Traumatic Relationship Syndrome + Surviving Toxic Exes

Most of us still haven't healed from our previous relationships and we're too rushed in being with other people. Please seek therapy because PTRS is real and unless sorted through, you will suffer your next best your past worst...

Posttraumatic Relationship Syndrome can be defined as an anxiety disorder that occurs subsequent to the experience of physical, sexual or severe emotional abuse in the context of an emotionally intimate relationship.
19
APR

021: Why Your Relationships Keep Failing | #SBL With @HakeemAndrsn

In & with love;

Know your hand in how things stand and how they turn out. In life, at work, at home and in relationships. You are not the victim you've always assumed yourself to be and you're not as helpless as you'd like those who pity your position to think.

Own your hand. Know its ends.

Enjoy The Love You Do...

••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"••••••••••••••••••••••••••

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23
JAN

020: “Damaged Black Love + My Truth About Our Part In It | #SBL with @HakeemAndrsn...”

Episode 020 is my heart to heart to you concerning us and our attitudes towards love, loving and being loved. Yes we've all been hurt and disappointed but damn fam, are we that eager to stay broken that the only thing we feel about love is damage?

We all need to do better. Please hear me out?

With love.

A king.
Enjoy The Love You Do...

••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"••••••••••••••••••••••••••

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12
NOV
2019

019 - How To Add Value To Your Relationship + Changing From Your Love Sabotage | #SBL with @HakeemAndrsn

Wishing relationships become healthy, more warm, worth your while, incredible and delicious is going to ruin them if you just stand on the wayside & cringe at the idea of working on them. Love is serious work and it seriously starts serving you when you decide to serve it.

In this episode we tackle three key value adds you should work on on a daily in order to improve your loving. This seriously improves your character and person and sets you up for grand reciprocity. There's obviously more ways we can add value but I picked these three because of how crucial they are in any relationship. Heck, they could even be applied to your work life.

Be of value. It's hard to get rid of you when you come correct like that.

Enjoy The Love You Do...

••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"••••••••••••••••••••••••••

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07
NOV
2019

018: Your Fear Of Loving Good Men + How You Break Good Love | #SBL Season 2 with @HakeemAndrsn

Welcome to the truth you’d hate to hear about the way you love. Challenge this all you want but you know what I’m saying is real and true.

If not you, then your girls are creating broken men by being emotional bullies in relationships they’re passing time with.

Men feel too but do you care?

#DoLoveBetter - Enjoy Love.

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26
AUG
2019

017: How To De-Stress Your Relationship with @HakeemAndrsn | #SincerelyBlackLove

We all hit the never late snags and stress piles up on us like a ton of bricks that renders you helpless and communication + the flow of your relationship suffers. We know all too well what toll this can take on your partner and your unionship and that can always ring alarms for us.

Since we don't want that anywhere near us, I thought it best to compile a list of tasks & methods one can employ in working against the stress tides and lead you to a more functional way of dealing with the stress when it comes. There's a lot in the near 50 minutes of this podcast that you can use personally and with your partner (forgive the sniffles and coughs).

Love will always work when you work love into it.

Enjoy Love.

••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"••••••••••••••••••••••••••

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19
AUG
2019

016: Forgiving Yourself + Monotasking with @HakeemAndrsn | #SincerelyBlackLove

In this week's episode, I wanted to delve into what steps one can take to forgive oneself for dropping the ball and hurting themselves and others. We're human and, to be human is to err so, since I love solutions more than fixating on problems, I'd like to focus on what one can do to step back into action more resolute and ready to face life.

I also tackle monotasking cause in a time where we need to be more present and seek wholeness in our experiences, having a split focus on the things you love and seek to build better with and for, we need to zone in and get things done. So we unitask now. Multitasking is a lie.

Enjoy love

••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"••••••••••••••••••••••••••

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04
AUG
2019

015 - 12 Steps To Self Care with @HakeemAndrsn | #SincerelyBlackLove

After a month-long hiatus, I return to you refreshed from a self-introspection period where I had to let a lot of things go in order to let God God better for me. I've gained so much perspective on what the goals and plans for the podcast are and I want nothing more but to share this clarity of purpose with you guys.

These 12 steps I've adopted have helped me on my journey to self-improvement and episode 015 is where I get to share my thoughts on a human to human level with you as a person who's embraced with flawed ways and loves it completely knowing there is only better from here on out. I love black love enough to only want to serve it as an exceptional individual.

This is how I've been learning to show up better, for myself first.

Enjoy love. Always

••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"••••••••••••••••••••••••••

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27
JUN
2019

013 - Relationship Green Flags + Signs You're Loving Right | #SincerelyBlackLove with @HakeemAndrsn

Red flags are such a constant focus in how we love and how we allow others to love us that we haven't really looked into what the opposite positive of that is.

Green flags are what I've been teaching my clients and friends to focus 95% of their energies on and to be proactive in ensuring they use those as fertile ground to grow their relationships from.

Learn what you're doing right and how you can improve in this week's episode and when you're done with the listening pleasure, let us know what you identified as your top ten relationship qualities.

Enjoy love. Always

••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"••••••••••••••••••••••••••

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FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG)

#TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement
21
JUN
2019

012 - Understanding Your Love Style + Mastering Compassionate Love | #SincerelyBlackLove with @HakeemAndrsn

We mostly know about love languages but what is your specific love style? What love style does your partner use to communicate their love to you.

We all obsess too about the honeymoon phase of the relationship and most of us give up and run from relationships that dwindle out of that fiery passion and we are all wrong for doing that.

In this week's episode I talk about our different love styles and how you can master them all and saunter into how that mastery can help you build a successful relationship when the honeymoon phase does dwindle. I tell you how not to fixate on what's supposed to die and how to relish the decline of surface love into pragmatic and deep love for your partner and spouse.

There is a list but more than anything, there is an incredible love-hack for you and yours this week.

Enjoy love

••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"••••••••••••••••••••••••••

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FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG)

#TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement
18
JUN
2019

011 - Are You Ready To Date Again + How You Know | #SincerelyBlackLove with @HakeemAndrsn

So you're here now huh? Asking whether you're ready for a relationship and not sure what it is you need to be checking for to measure whethere you're good to put yourself out there or nah?

Well, fret not. A new list was created by yours truly for you to check yourself before you wreck all the hard work you been putting into building yourself up. I sought to give you relationship hacks before and even after you decide to jump into what looks great and to equip you with what makes relationships successful and I do hope you enjoy this episode and internalize all I've put together for you in your daring to be enjoyed.

Bonus: I included more songs for you and will credit artists moving forward.

1. Tay Iwar -
2. BJ The Chicago Kid - Perfect
3. Lorine Chia - Black Girl Magic
4. Marcellus Juvan - Ready For Love
5. Che Lingo - Black Girl Magic

A big shout out and respect to "Mr Henchard & Mrs Lungi Mashigo + Ms Pula Simango" for sending me the #LoveGuidanceVNs. I wanna include these in every episode now and hope you guys enjoy them as much as I do.

Enjoy, Love.

••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"••••••••••••••••••••••••••

Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love.

FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG)

#TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement
11
JUN
2019

010: Dating A Narcissist + How To Get Out | #SincerelyBlackLove with @HakeemAndrsn

We've all been with someone who exhibits the symptoms and even are and have been one of them. A narcissist.

This episode highlights clinically-proven character traits you might be dealing with or having that classify you or your partner as one and it's important for us to know what we're dealing with and what we've become of ourselves and still allow in order for us to reach that healing we all chase in order to be deserving of black love and what we need in our today and tomorrow love lives.

I'm glad we're here too because, once you name it, you know its power and once you know how that power used, you know where you must change and change for good.

Also: IT'S IN A LIST. I MADE A LIST. Hahahahahahahaha.

Enjoy, Love.

••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"••••••••••••••••••••••••••

Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love.

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